“Arrange whatever pieces come your way.” ~ Virginia Woolf
I once heard a story about a woman who could not bear to throw her deceased husband’s clothes away so she cut them up into squares and sewed them into a quilt. Each night she wrapped herself in her ‘husband’, seeking comfort, security and warmth beneath the quilt.
More recently, Corey from Life With Little Ones posted about a quilt she made from her sons’ baby clothes and favorite possessions. It’s beautiful. The quilt and the act of Corey making it brought me to tears. I imagined this heirloom being passed down to future generations and pieces of their children’s lives being added to it.
We are all cloaked in a quilt made of pieces others have given us. Everyday you go through the
world being gently touched, sucker punched, caressed, and shoved. Everyone adds and takes away.
We are a collection of how we’ve been handled by others. Pieces and scraps that time stitches together to create a quilt we use for security, warmth, and comfort. We may hide under
it. Some become entangled and tripped up by the quilt.
Some patches are monogrammed, a name given to us, family history. Other pieces are ones we’ve chosen. Some are well worn, needing repair. Others look as pristine as the day they were added, with no sign of use. Some are plain. Some are bold. This collection of different colors, patterns and sizes are all stitched together with a common thread of our interpretation making each quilt unique.
With each interaction we have with another, we are exchanging pieces of ourselves. We are adding to others quilts, even if
unintentionally. These interactions affect who we are; who others are. We leave with one less piece of ourselves, replaced by a piece of someone else; it’s never an even exchange.
Only a few people will ever take notice of the underside of the quilt, the side closest to the heart.
Some of these exchanges are sewn on with love and care. Other patches of life are barely hanging on by a thread.
Remember words and deeds matter.
What are you adding to others’ quilts?