Realized Loss

We live in a moment of history where change is so speeded up that we begin to see the present only when it is already disappearing. ~ R. D. Laing


People, relationships and things grow old.

We hardly realize they are fading into the background

becoming part of the scenery we pass by on the way to the future.

We assume things will never change and always remain,

until one day you take your eyes off the fast track

only to discover a loss.

Nothing is left but a memory

of something you barely knew

but wish you had.

home gone


For more pictures of this home see Trespasses.

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24 Responses to Realized Loss

  1. Victoria May 9, 2011 at 10:01 pm #

    We must be sisters Deborah.

    I watched the exact same thing happen to a house up the street from us and when they demolished it I cried.

    Amazing how parallel our crazy lives are.

    I guess were old souls together. :)

  2. Emily May 9, 2011 at 10:10 pm #

    Sad how everything always comes to an end

  3. Kathleen May 10, 2011 at 2:58 am #

    It’s so sad I almost can’t look. :(

  4. Anonymous May 10, 2011 at 6:23 am #

    How sad :( It’s too bad that someone couldn’t see the beauty of it and saved it.

  5. Dee May 10, 2011 at 6:29 am #

    My heart hurts Deborah. What a beautiful home we have lost.

  6. laurie f May 10, 2011 at 7:33 am #

    It amazes me that isn’t there someone somewhere out there who can save these places? It also amazes me that these beautiful houses get abandoned. I have a beautiful old building just minutes away and I can’t tell if it was a house or a barn. It is unique with these many small square windows but long like a barn but not as big as a barn! If those of us who really appreciated those old houses came together we might be able to afford one together!!! It is sad to see these places just disappear! Thanks for sharing!

  7. Parsley May 10, 2011 at 8:40 am #

    I still see my ‘old’ house and how the owners have let it slip into disrepair. Sad when things can’t stay like we remember.

  8. Oklahoma Granny May 10, 2011 at 8:47 am #

    The first time I saw your photos of this old home it reminded me a lot of the one in the movie, “The Notebook.” It’s so sad someone didn’t recognize this grand old lady’s potential and work to bring her back to life they way Noah, the main character in the movie, did.

  9. Zuzu May 10, 2011 at 9:20 am #

    Such a wonderful home. And as always, your writing says it all – beautifully.

  10. Layla May 10, 2011 at 9:41 am #

    Such a bummer. :-( Breaks my heart!

  11. LindaG May 10, 2011 at 10:55 am #

    Yes, it is sad.

    I felt the same way when I realized how much I wish I had learned from my Granny.

  12. Dawn May 10, 2011 at 12:24 pm #

    So dissapointing she was torn down instead of being renovated. Wait…maybe she was moved to a new location? Wishful thinking , I’m sure. I hope they at least had the decency to save all those beautiful architectual elements. Your “Tresspasses” post will immortalize her as long as this technology exits. Some of your photos would make lovely art.

  13. Kim May 10, 2011 at 3:18 pm #

    Truly heartbreaking…..

  14. Kaye May 10, 2011 at 5:00 pm #

    WOW what a shame! That place had bones and character! Can’t buy those things!

  15. Ina in Alaska May 10, 2011 at 5:00 pm #

    Oh my, how sad. Somebody(ies) once loved everything about that old house and once proudly cared for it. I like to imagine people sitting on the front porch back in its time. Thank you for sharing.

  16. Anne May 10, 2011 at 8:05 pm #

    We drove by our first home. It was sad. They took all the beautiful landscaping we put in the front and painted the house exterior dark ugly brown and goldenrod! Except they ran out of paint and it is two lovely shades of green on one section! Lord, they must have thrown out the covenant control! Or those poor people are truly color blind! Then our second home, it looks like a bad b/w old Mexican movie! The whole neighborhood is filled entirely with illegals! Some homes have 10-20 cars parked on the lawn, or where it use to be! Sad!
    This home was once so lovely you can tell there were many good times to be had! Nice cold lemonade on a porch in the summer. watching the snow fall in the winter. What nice memories to remember.

  17. melissa May 11, 2011 at 6:03 pm #

    I know this to be true!

  18. Susan G May 12, 2011 at 2:00 am #

    Deborah, you have no idea how much of a sore spot you have hit with me here. There were 2 houses almost identical to this that were still standing Only 1 and 2 years ago 2 towns north of me, I used to live there. The one used to be an old farm, when the man was still alive he allowed visitors and they could see the goats and sheep, and he even had a little train outside he would take the kids for rides on. I sit here now just shaking my head thinking of it. Not to mention all the acres and acres of trees taken down in the same area and then right outside our little “lost village”(of the pine barrens) they put up 3 “active adult communities” and one large estate development.

    My husband, who is older than I has seen much more of it than me. He keeps saying they need to change our stat motto to “The Treeless State” instead of the Garden state.

    It is all so very sad. Please come visit my cottage charm giveaway.


  19. andrea May 13, 2011 at 6:58 pm #

    It may sound crazy…but my eyes just welled up with tears at the thought of that beautiful home being torn down….it’s such a shame…the home was absolutely gorgeous.

  20. Debra@CommonGround May 14, 2011 at 12:11 am #

    Such a beautiful and haunting post. The same thing happened to the home I grew up in, so very sad. Thank you for sharing this at VIF! xo Debra

  21. Amanda @ Serenity Now May 14, 2011 at 1:34 pm #

    That house had such lovely lines! A shame that they tore it down. :( A great reminder to stop and appreciate what we have while we have it!!

    Thanks for joining my Weekend Bloggy Reading party. :) Hope you’ll stop by Serenity Now again soon! :)

  22. Laura Ingalls Gunn May 20, 2011 at 11:11 am #

    If it ever goes to auciton an sells for a few dollars I’ll take it. It truly needs someone to love on it. I myself can “see” what she could once again be.

    • Deborah May 20, 2011 at 1:52 pm #

      Unfortunately, the home was torn down. The second photograph shows all that remains.

  23. Allyson May 21, 2011 at 7:45 pm #

    Such a beautiful house. It’s always such a shame to see these kinds of things demolished. Thanks for sharing the pictures!


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